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Spread # 98- Many Degrees Of Separation June 17, 2010

Posted by Orly in Uncategorized.

Why is separating so hard to do? We experience many separations each and every day of our lives, monumental and minuscule. All is fluid, ever changing, one moment yields to the next, one friendship to a new one, one thought, one feeling, and one love, to another. We fall in and out of love constantly. And if so that separation is such an integral part of our dance, how come we never learn to choreograph our separation routine? How is it that we never learn to be brave in the face of separation? Why do we avoid, resist, and hang on? Why does it take so much courage? I want to be fearless. I want to be fluid.


1. Brian K - June 17, 2010

Time, distance, emotion, “come here/go away”, love/hate, ambivolence, fear, birth, life, death, whathave you… they separate us all. This separation leaves holes in our soul. You see these holes and captured them beautifully. Some are natural and healing, some are raw, bitter, sore… Orly your beautiful, wonderful soul.

2. kelly - June 17, 2010

Ahhh fluidity…there’s what we all need more of in our lives.
I agree, our seperating is a struggle and yet such a part of our everyday. Here’s to bravery and pushing out, we have it in us that courage and fearlessness you refer to…we just have to find the way to grasp it and hold on!
Thank you for a lovely visual and thought provoking post Orly.

3. Anairam - June 18, 2010

I think we “avoid, resist and hang on” becasue we are human. We have evolved to collect and hoard. Posessions and relationships, habits and emotions. Once something works for us, we don’t want to “separate” from it. That way life is simplified. Change requires energy and commitment, and as you have mentioned, courage.

4. Anairam - June 18, 2010

Sorry – I typed too fast and made mistakes. Eeeeeeeeh, I hate when I do that. Because and possessions!! Maybe I must learn to let go”of my mistakes ….

5. Pnina Gold - June 18, 2010

It’s all about our comfort zone. Separation can make us feel sad or relieved. It’s important to rmember that we are changing all the time and sometime we need to separate to keep growing. if you are around people who help you grow you won’t experience separation.

6. Stephanie - June 19, 2010

I don’t think we ever want to see that separation is a possibility…when it happens we go through all the stages of grief, no matter what the separation; denial, anger,bargaining, depression, acceptance. Not pleasant stuff.

I wish you strength in whatever separation you are feeling.


7. Briana - June 21, 2010

I love the phrase “Fluidity of Love”. We all need this in our lives, as you say, as things are constantly changing.

8. Arlene Wanetick - June 22, 2010

We suffer separations because we are human, and attaching is our nature. I think it takes a lifetime of practice to accept change and separation as part of life’s natural ongoing flow. And I am working on it right beside you. And in the meantime, best to love all of ourselves….including the messy, attaching, dare I say even fearful parts. Love you, sister.

9. Seth - June 24, 2010

Boy this post resonates with me right now. Thank you for that!

10. Gil - July 16, 2010


11. Rita - August 25, 2010

Wow, this really resonates with me right now as well. I think it is difficult to accept separation not just because its outside of our comfort zone to have to change, but because we may have invested so much of ourselves, our hearts, our time, to one person and may feel “short-changed” and heartbroken when that person leaves.

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